Lightbulb

Recently Butterball was diagnosed with Sensory Integration Disorder.  I am so glad that I finally took him to the doctor.  I initially took him in for anxiety, which he also has.  But the other disorder was like a light bulb.  And I am still finding light bulbs with learning about this.  It is so amazing and relieving to understand some things. 

 

Here is an example of some of the things that we have learned. 

 

When he was little we would have sunglasses on him and also put blankets on the windows of the car. At the dentist he has sometimes had to wear two sunglasses. 

They can be sensitive to lights. 

 

He has always wore his belts so tight that I was sure it would cut off his circulation or be very uncomfortable. 

Tight clothing is very soothing and relaxing to people with this.  He has been sensitive to the length of clothes on his arms, or his waist.  Part of that is that he is more comfortable in tighter (smaller) clothes.  Now I don't get rid of clothes when they are too small for him, unless they are ridiculously small.  And then it is a battle when he realizes it.  He has always had a hard time finding "comfortable" socks.  Now we know that seamless socks are the best.  I now stock up when/if I find something that he will wear.  He usually wears his shoes tied so tight it is crazy but for some reason shoes are bothering him lately.  There have been days when he can't have his shoes tied all day because it "feels weird".

 

Some foods will make them feel like they are gagging, even when it was fine the day before. 

Ohhhhh, that explains the fit he had when he wanted triangles with cheese, which he had the day before, and then refused to eat it as after one bite it "taste weird, I feel like I am going to gag."

 

He is very uncomfortable in other places.  I have not tied down whether that is the noise level which can bother them, or the lighting, or just plain anxiety.

 

I have learned that massages, lavender, bubble baths, chewy foods, and "squishies" all help him.  Squishes is me tightly squeezing his upper legs or arms.  When I can tell he is getting elevated or bothered or whatever, then I will do squishies which I have noticed can help.

 

This has been a learning process that is for sure.  So yes, I will leave places when he is uncomfortable, yes I will let him wear his shoes untied, and yes I will be more relaxed about what he wears to certain places, like church.  Because if he feels better then he behaves better.  And as difficult as this disorder can be, I love this smart, creative, funny, caring, loving, sensitive boy.  A boy who wants to build robots and make prosthetic limbs and make flying shoes. This is my sweet Butterball.

 

Day 12 - make something for someone you don't normally get along with

Seriously?!? Holy cow this was hard to even think about. I tend to be a peace maker so I was having trouble thinking of people I don't normally get along with. I tend to have this horrible desire to get along with everyone. :) But my daughter immediately thought of people. She made little alligator gifts for her brother Butterball and put some candy in it for him.

She said she should do something for me to as "I really don't get a long with you." She cracks me up. I had told a friend about this task and she texted me a lecture later about something to do with my kids and then included, "How was that you mad at me now? OK lets make up." It cracked me up!

Day 11 - clean, fix, or do something for someone else

We have been getting very behind because we have been so sick in our house. And just plain exhausted. So on a weekend we caught up with a few. This was hard for my kids and I to think of what to do. So as we were driving somewhere we decided to clear snow off people's vehicles. We were not dressed right for this and so we ended up getting done one. UGH!

But at least we did something. I tried to get them to do more but they were freezing.

My daughter is digging what she called a potty trail (the snow was yellow) so that she could walk over to do the side of the vehicle. What a nut.

Day 10 - Get a gift card to a restaurant and tape to drive through window

I cheated! I know, shame on me! I have a friend that I texted telling her she should follow me through the drive through. Turns out she has two kids with a birthday this month and not a lot of cash so I cheated by buying her a gift card to go out to eat with the kids. Darn....I just thought that I should have taped it to her forehead or something. Hmmmmm....maybe next time.

Day 9 - send a card to a random person in the phone book

My daughter picked out our random person and we made a card and then wrote our message. And yes, I am the dork that made the card, wrote my message, realized the card was too big for the envelope, trim the card, add daughter's message, take a picture, and then mail the card. And then when I post the picture I realize the trim had cut off part of my message. I am a dork.

Day 8 - Tape coupons on the items at the grocery store

What a blast. I rarely use all my Smith's coupons so I plan to do this more.

My daughter is finally clicking into how great this is. She said, "It actually feels good to be giving like this." Hey, better late than never.

I even saw a lady near the meat section buying a ton of meat so I gave her two coupons for her meat that I had.

I had a great time.

Day 7 - Leave change in a place where kids play

This was fun but a bit awkward as there were kids there already. Appleseed put down one penny and wanted the rest. Then he placed them all one by one around the gum machine.

The older kids put their money all over. When we got out to the car a lady came out with a child with a hand full of money saying my kids had dropped their money so I explained to her what we were doing.